A man shall leave his mother and.......

father and cleave to his wife and they shall become one flesh. Genesis 2:24. It is funny to me that we always use that bible reference at weddings. Not because I find it untrue. but because it has a sense of finality that seems to have been lost. We are so intertwined in one anothers lives that the only reall way to leave your father and mother is to move far away! I dont think that in the bible they had the luxury of packing up all there stuff and moving 1100 kilometers away to another city. I think they had a different respect for each other. I have had it pointed out to me many times that this or that woman has a jezebel spirit when they are being nosy or controlling. But what about men? What is the male equivelent of the same spirit? And why is it so hard for parents to stop pushing their view points as if they are the only ones that matter far after you have "fled the nest". It would seem that we have created some sort of soap opera monster. I know for some of you that might read this you will think " oh boy aaron had to spend too much time with his parents", but its not even me I was thinking about. Someone sayed to me they didnt understand why their son seemed to have such a hard time with them. He said" every time i tell him something you can see that he gets all uptight. Im not sure why that is but It something that hes going to have to work out." I said dont most boys have a problem with there fathers when they grow up and move out? And sure it is for him to deal with. But I think its more a case of him trying to figure out What he believes and what he wants to do. And in my head " and your not helping the situation." I was blessed with two Dads but to be honest still at 34 years old they have the ability to make me want to stop talking to both of them for long periods of time. I am pretty different than both of them in my religious views and a strange mix of their personalities. And it makes for awkward conversation most of the time because when you try to open up and be real you get solutions and fixits that generally focus on you being 10 and not keeping your room clean. We dont seperate Son from Married man, and i think its hurting father son relations. it doesnt say go cleave to your wife and then come home and be a kid again. When you left you were on your own inlife. Not that people arent still there for you but you are making your own life. You are 100% going to do things different than your parents because you have to. Otherwise you are a clone and we werent created for that. I recently had a chance to sit down and get to know someone and one of the first things he told me about himself was that he wasnt a yes man. I thought that was a strange way of describing yourself, but a few weeks later im still mulling it over. Am I a Yes man? I hope not to be and I think every man should get to the point when he stops being a yes man And starts being his own man. And I think that should happen when he moves out of the house. I once called home a while after moving out of the house and was getting a lecture about something that i had done im not even sure what it was but suddenly it dawned on me that I was paying by the minute to get into trouble! I cut dad off and said he wasnt aloud to lecture me on my dime and that if he wanted to give me unsolicitated advice he was going to have to call me. It just struck me as funny at the time and came back to me while i was talking to this father. maybe your son doesnt want the unsolicited advise. Hes heard it for the past however many years and now hes trying to figure out his path. Which brings me back to the whole spirit thing. is there any difference between the male and the female? Something to discuss I suppose.